Audio Recording of the conversation with Sara
Sara has so kindly provided us with an incredible resource guide she has put together. What an honor to get to listen to her wisdom. Thank you!!
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Resources:
As you consider purchasing books, consider the following to resources to source your books locally and online from:
Black Owned bookstores: https://www.cntraveler.com/story/black-owned-bookstoreshttps://www.oprahdaily.com/entertainment/book
Queer Owned bookstores: https://www.oprahdaily.com/entertainment/books/a36741294/queer-lgbtq-owned-bookstores/
Current favorite books on boundaries:
Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships Kindle by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Books on Mixed Faith Marriages and Spiritual Development and Faith Traditions
One Family, Two Views: How to Fortify Your Mixed-Faith Mormon Marriage by Natasha Helfer Parker (Author)
When Mormons Doubt: A Way to Save Relationships and Seek a Quality Life Jon D. Ogden
Navigating Mormon Faith Crisis A Simple Developmental Map by Thomas Wirthlin McConkie
Additional books the can support the mixed-faith journey:
Learning how to hold space in difference: The Art of Holding Space by Heather Plett
Understanding integrity: Martha Beck: The Way of Integrity
A gorgeous books that identifies the realities of heart work for healing and collective grief as well as collective trauma: Finding Refuge: Heart working for healing and collective grief
A curated list of mixed faith marriages resources by Claudine Foudray, please notice the online facebook supports including Marriage on a Tightrope facebook support groups: https://postmormoncoaching.com/blog/resources-for-lds-mixed-faith-marriages/
Sara’s Family and Marital Values Exercise PDF: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/55496fb7e4b0ddfe1e688619/t/60311ebc9b36975a8ac778d0/1613831875343/Spiritual-Values.pdf
Exploring Values Based Education with our families:
Uplift Kids: https://upliftkids.org/
This podcast app is curated by themes, populations, and values to supplement the conversations you’ve having in your families, still in early development and curation stages: https://www.kidspod.app/
Overview of Living BIG (Boundaries, Integrity, Generosity)
A solid introduction to understanding enmeshment culture within the Mormon context, on Gina Colvin’s A Thoughtful Faith Podcast with Wendy Christian: https://www.athoughtfulfaith.org/enmeshed-family-systems-differentiation-and-faith-crisis-a-discussion-with-wendy-christian-and-friends/
Resource on beginning to explore how people please has contributed to low levels of personal differentiation with Sara Fisk’s work, groups, and podcast:https://www.sarafisk.coach/
Improving Communication Skills: How to Have That Difficult Conversation: Gaining the Skills for Honest and Meaningful Communication by Henry Cloud
Additional Presentations by Sara and fellow colleagues Anthony Miller and Jana Spanger
Navigating and Strengthening a Mixed Faith Marriage (please note with kindness that my ideas, concepts, and suggestions have evolved over time since 2018, when this was presented) https://unpackingambiguitycom.wordpress.com/2018/08/04/navigating-and-strengthening-a-mixed-faith-marriage-2018-slc-sunstone-symposium/
Nurturing Growth and Development Post-orthodoxy: https://unpackingambiguitycom.wordpress.com/2019/09/15/nurturing-growth-and-development-post-orthodoxy-2019-slc-sunstone-symposium/
Five tips in how Anthony Miller and his partner have navigated their mixed faith marriages: https://www.facebook.com/1224567487/videos/607586314089503/
Therapeutic & Coaching Resources:
Symmetry Solutions: https://symmetrypath.com/
Brooke Booth: https://brookeboothcoaching.com/
(Please note Brooke’s podcast, tik tok videos, and contributions to the the https://marriageonatightrope.org/
Mormon Mental Health Association: https://mormonmentalhealthassoc.org/
Heather Astill, LCSW: https://www.hastilltherapy.com/
Marty Erikson and his Utah based practice are very familiar with mixed-faith marriage work and bring dignity to each person’s experience: https://progressivepathstherapy.com/our-therapists/
Mindful Counseling, consider asking who in their practice specializes in mixed-faith relationships: https://mindfulcounselingutah.com/
Liz Wright, North Logan Therapy Associates,
Sara’s Contact:
Please feel free to reach out, I am open to feedback, pushback, and opportunities to know what worked well for you and where there is room to grow!
Email: Sara.hughes.zabawa@gmail.com
Website: https://sarahughes-zabawa.squarespace.com/
Instagram: @beinginbalancewellness
Thank you for this generous opportunity to join and contribute to your community. X0 - Sara
This was lovely! Very wise to point out that the same strength you enjoy and admire can also be difficult sometimes. Loads of wise thoughts I need to think more deeply about. Thank you.